Unlike some other sexual activities, voyeurism gives a chance to everyone: old, young, poor, whealthy, celebrities, shy and even antisocial people. The real triumph for a voyeur is not participation, but being there to watch at the right moment. Psychological and social factors needed for a person to become voyeur are complex, but the basic conflict would be a simplified attitude towards masculinity, which during adultood inevitably comes into conflict with the reality of life. Feeling insecure and “not manly enough” for real intercourse causes voyeurs to find peace and salvation in perverted acts of watching someone else. Voyeurs are usually timid and shy people prone to violence only in exceptional circumstances – when they’re afraid they’ll get caught.
It’s not that bad…
During the 60’s, English writer Paul Ableman came up with different opinion about voyeurism. He wrote that people who like to watch shouldn’t be labeled as perverted or sick, because human beings are rarely able to resist watching naked bodies and sexual acts. In his controversial opinion, it’s not surprising there’s a lot of sad and depressed people who like to spy on privacy of others in today’s narcissistic and egoistic society. Actually, it’s a wonder how most people aren’t drilling holes in their walls and using binoculars to satisfy the hunger for visual stimuli. Because, in fact, most of the boys are prone to spying, and by giving it up during adulthood under pressure of society, they’re not getting rid of their need for watching, they’re just making it a secret and perverted habit.
Different types of voyeurs
But not everyone keeps it secret. There are voyeurs who enjoy the lascivious atmosphere in darkened clubs where they can watch naked women masturbate exclusively for them and other male observers. There are others who like to peek from the bushes in parks and in the woods where lovers meet. Some are exposed to high risk and would even climb up the fire ladder to peek through the windows and watch women undressing or having sex. And what can we say about today’s voyeurism? Just think about the Internet and you’ll get the idea. Maybe we’re all voyeurs for real…
And we’ve always been voyeurs (in a bad way too)
Some wonder what’s wrong with watching other people enjoy love and achieve satisfaction? It’s certainly a lot better than watching other people suffer, which is the kind of voyeurism that has always existed. And not only that, it’s was rarely supressed and often glorified. For example, public executions by the guillotine have been a true national ceremony for a long time, during which the present crowd usually experienced incredibly strong emotions of sadness or happiness. It was a rare opportunity to step out of your miserable daily routine, even if it meant to witness a horrific death of someone you never knew. So, if people have always been interested in the actions of others this way, sexual voyeurism might be the least of your worries.